Why Should We Look at Changing Our Business Model for Career Schools

Historically schools and colleges have moved on with a scale of very little change. Society changes, economy changes, politics changes, and now we have experienced technology change. Looking at anyone of these attributes we can see these changes are so great they don’t even to appear to be the same company they were years ago. When something works well then why do we change? When looking at American companies from when they started how do they look today. Below is a list of companies who have a long history of existence. What has been their secret or grand plan to remain viable and healthy.

  1. IBM 1911, scales and punchcard machines and later large mainframes (today: business intelligence, software, hardware)
  2. Xerox 1906, photographic paper (today toner, ink, software, printers, copy machines)
  3. Nokia 1865, paper mills, rubber works and cables (today phones and games)
  4. Monsanto 1901, Saccharin (today roundup, genetically engineered seed)
  5. GE 1892, Light bulb (today gas engines, hybrid locomotives, HD CT scanners, sound devices, chemical sensors)
  6. Fortune Brands 1969, who were previously know as American Brands, Tobacco (today hardware, home furnishings, golf clubs, cabinets)
  7. Du Pont 1802,Gun powder ( today adhesives, insecticides, fire extinguishers, weatherization systems)
  8. Corning 1851, glass, (today optical fiber, cell phone covers, telescopic mirrors, television screens)
  9. Apple 1976, personal computer kit, (today ipad, ipod, online music, iphones)
  10. 3M 1902, Sandpaper (today scotch tape, duct tape, post it notes, cleaning products)

Why would we look to these companies when talking about schools and colleges? Success stories like these are the blueprint to remaining a vibrant and purposeful organization to the society they serve. Their side track they took in the services had to remain relevant. Leadership even when distracted by negative influences are still on track with doing what they do best.

There are lessons to be learned from the leadership of these companies. As anyone can see they ventured into new territory and became successful by not allowing any negative influences forget what they did best. Each re-engineered company never allowed one source of income to be the life line of their mission. Career schools before selling their heart and soul to government control were successful in providing the graduates with certificates, diplomas and later associate degrees to an ever growing need for early entry employees with skills. Some of these schools boasted how companies had hired entire program graduates from their schools. The career school environment was healthy and respected. As each year went by and schools became more dependent on government funding the destiny of any school was being subjected to rules and regulations with rule makers in Washington D.C. The prospect of states determined the fate of their schools was quickly vanishing. The legacy of government today has built a brazen path that has placed schools into being a political football. Placing students, teachers and parents into the vicious contemptuous rhetoric of supporting schools by tearing them down. It is easy to be a critic when the only solution is to eliminate the education body you are so vehemently against. American history has shown the ills of taking anything we don’t like, trust or targeted by annihilation results in later remorse.

Our societal survivors never lost faith in what they believed were principles of high integrity of what they were and symbolized. This is why I contend our school leadership should look at what brought them to the added value they once were so proud in providing. While escaping the fear we should turn this around into pride and show the communities we serve, that we can still stand tall.

Gary R Carlson


Drugs & Alcohol

A story of a temptation, peer pressure, depression, celebration, love, deceit, mistrust, anger, hate, decisions, health, family, brain abuse and recovery.

While looking at each of these attributes it must not be forgotten what this does to everyone that is in touch with each of these afflictions.

Excessive alcohol use leads to 95,000 deaths each year and 37 million Americans binge drink at least once a week. (National Drug and Alcohol Facts, March 22-28 2021)

Time to Relax

Once upon a time a family who had been successful financially planned a wonderful trip to a resort in Talum, Mexico. January 2022, was the outbreak of the new COVID. (Omicron) Some of the family members who had looked forward to joining the family were afflicted with Omicron, one family member died from the COVID virus and another was bed stricken from a sports vehicle accident. What seemed to be a great idea one year ago was falling apart. Even with the downfalls the remainder family members boarded their flights, passed the COVID check points and headed off for Talum. Five days of relaxation and fun. Even with the rocks in the road the destination trip was going on even with the obstacles confronting them. This article is with a title of Drugs and Alcohol, so what does this have to do with the title?

One of the travelers who was twenty-four years old and a recent college graduate with a degree in finance was with his family. Because of the recent disruption in crime and drugs in Talum the family agreed to stay on the resort and not go to town. The plan was in place and they all would be safe on the resort for five days and nights.

It almost sounds like a fairy tale. All intentions were wholesome and pleasant. Little did anyone no one of them would not live up to the safety precautions the family had agreed upon. The young man at age twenty-four had been abusing alcohol and marijuana for who knows how long.

A Scenario of Precautions

Each night when family members called it a night and returned to their rooms the 24-year-old would leave the resort and go to the local bars and by weed on the street. For the sake of personalizing this story we will call the 24-year-old Ben. Ben did a great job of concealing his habits and was always back in the morning when the family gathered together. Family reflecting back on these days did have some feelings of Ben’s attitude of I am an adult and I can do what I want and didn’t really mingle in the day with family members.

Packing for the Trip Home

Preparation to Travel Home

Saturday night and last night. Everyone needs to pack and get ready to leave in the morning. All are accounted for and reported they are ready.

Morning comes and the rides are there to pick everyone up to go to the airport. Ok, lets count heads to make sure everyone is here. After the count they are missing one. Where is Ben? Quick trip up to his room and they find all his bags packed and ready to go but no Ben. Panick begins to set in for everyone. Where could he be. Everyone but two family members go to the airport to catch their flight home.

Search Party Begins

The search party becomes an aunt and uncle. They rent a car and start combing the beaches and showing locals his picture. Ben was seen out in front of a 7/11 store. The search goes all day and into the night. His credit card was attempted to be used but was declined. Phone calls came back to home in the U.S. to tell everyone they have not found him. Ben’s parents have now chartered a flight to Mexico. Just before they leave the U.S. he is found. Ben is in a Mexican jail. It was such a relief for the family to find him alive. Now, comes the negotiation by his uncle with the Mexican authorities to get him out of jail and on to home. Ben’s uncle negotiates a 250-dollar fine and they get him out. Ben seems not remorseful or finds it pretty funny. He doesn’t understand why they just didn’t leave him and he could have got out on his own. Everyone is going to spend another night in Mexico and leave on the chartered flight the next morning.

The Trip Home

How Lucke Can Ben be?

On the way home Ben drinks and vapes on the jet. Still no remorse or Thank Yous’ to aunt, uncle or mom and dad. Ben drinks his way home while Dad is exhausted and Mom is relieved. Ben’s aunt and uncle are furious because of his inappropriate behavior.

Up to 40,000 feet and 450 mph heading to home airport. No flight changes just one plane and destination to home.

After Arriving Home

Ben is taken to his parents’ house and is told he will stay there. After observing his erratic behavior Ben was entered into a hospital on the mental health floor.

Ben needs help and so does Mom and Dad

Ben doesn’t know why he is there. His plans are to get out the next day. His family knows he has some mental health issues. The test continues for a week. Ben is having trouble sleeping and shows deep seeded anger at times. His parents are looking for answers to do the right thing with Ben. Many parents go through this quandary about mental health issues that exist with a child, young man or woman. If you have ever looked for help in this situation you will find yourself often lost. After one week Ben was released and told he will have four days a week of therapy as an outpatient. During this time Ben has confrontations with his mom, dad, aunt and uncle. His behavior is becoming so erratic that other family members don’t want to engage with Ben until he gets help. His parents are reaching out to those who have experience in their lives like Ben’s. The picture they have received is clear that most of these people seem to bottom out before they begin to improve. This situation has great risk in that some of these people like Ben may make a mistake that would harm themselves or others. It may happen they may end up in a psychiatric ward or incarcerated. It is essential when they hit bottom that they find people who care enough and will show them love, faith, hope, grace and peace in their life to begin to fill the gaps of life. Finding the appropriate program will stop the spiraling into a crash and burn scenario to a successful outcome.

Do I Need to Hit Rock Bottom?

A program of building blocks to create a new life experience will provide a new birth in facing life challenges. A comprehensive program looks and the sequence of events which would include the essential key development characteristics of decency. The approach provides the necessity to understand the triune of mental, physical and soft skill balance to provide the foundation of potential improved mental health.

1- Manhood Realities
-2- Create and Cultivate
-3- Manhood Definition
-4- King/Warrior
-5- Lover/Friend
-6- Seasons

Many young men and women since the baby boom era have grown up without some of the common best practices of mental health growth exercises proclaimed by living with a family that subscribed to life skills of truth and intimacy. Family cognizance gives anyone of us while maturing in life lessons where others in later generations may have missed.

-1- Looking Back
-2- Dad
-3- Mom
-4- Healing
-5- All-Alone
-6- Heart

Addiction is such a strong influence that it overcomes any good advice by the ones who love them. It is interesting to see parents, friends and fellow workers seem to ask themselves if they were part of the problem. At my vantage point it seems as if it could be predictable but in many cases it becomes a complete surprise. While working with the addiction problem for the last eight years our program has seen from sever and mild conditions. Our MOBIA mentors have experienced miracles with some very difficult issues. It is not hard to see the methods and material content they are using has been successful. The answer is in the process of filling in the gaps that has existed in these peoples lives. I would encourage any of you to visit the website and hear it from the people who have been in the program. https://mentorsofbethany.org

Read the testimonies from people from all walks of life. Men and women have benefited from a system that develops rather than maintains.

For the story of Ben is yet to come. Ben has had the luxury of having finances that have given him the ability to run from his problems and travel around the United States. There is one they for sure is that everything runs out and when times get tough is usually when they seek out the answer. Do you know the answer?

Author: Gary R Carlson

Executive Director for “Mentors of Bethany in America”

Racism, Equity, prejudice, hypocrisy, covetous and worry

prejudice, discrimination, or antagonism directed against a person or people on the basis of their membership in a particular racial or ethnic group, typically one that is a minority or marginalized.

After a day of reflecting on our country and my being part of it for the past seventy-five years I decided to reflect on what is the obvious. My life as a white American who has lead a dedicated life to education of citizens from age five on into higher education. My personal primary and secondary education included the years of the 1950’s and 60’s. This was an era of propaganda, Cold War, Vietnam War, nuclear war potential, music revolution, drug abuse, demonstrations, segregation, civil rights, racism and and the prelude to family unity changing as we knew it with new dysfunctions.

Even with all the fear factors the United States appeared to have great promise for improving the status of life for everyone. During the early years of a baby boomer’s life into the teenage years parents were focused on their children having a better life than what their parents experienced. Work ethic, education and spiritual faith were considered essential to succeed. This family message for success was the same no matter of status, race, religion, or culture. The approach to achieve this goals may not be the same but opportunity was there for young men and women to grasp. The prize was available but it meant different things to different people and how we attained it was different.

Even with these encouragements of opportunity there was inequity of treatment in schools, legislation, war, housing, employment, religion, and many hardships primarily fell upon minorities of all the under represented. The picture above is from 1968 but could very well be 2021. Over fifty years of some of the most miraculous accomplishments anyone could imagine except for humanity of life improvements in acceptance, equity, love, hope, and the value of the human life. It is obvious we have touted ourselves on all the conveniences that have been created with almost miracle proportions over the last fifty years. When it comes to humanity to improve how we live our lives together has been approached from a passive awareness. As I look at the disruptions of today there are only two kinds of people who would deny any of what I have said. They are the disengaged and the dishonest.

The question is placed in front of us all when I have had the fortune or misfortune to see the ignoring of what really is the solution to the problem we all are confronted to solve. History is a good example of how our attempts over the years I have been alive did not work. Take another look at the picture. Society passed this hot potato offf to politicians who did the only thing they know how to do and that is to draft a bill. This then becomes a law or regulation. From our laws we began the onslaught of only making the canyon of disparity and hatred growing larger. The unaffected regarding the legislation continue as always and those who have suffered from life’s inheritances continue within the corrals of life.

The result of our laws, regulations, covetous leaders, and hypocritical leaders has produced more prisons, more poverty, addictions, more absentee fathers, welfare cost increases, entitlement expectations, hatred, prejudice, and family unity dysfunctions. Intentionally or not we as citizens have created a life of accepting prejudice and inequality even though we are not morally supportive of the condition. I could be assured the answer does not lie in laws and regulations. From the time of slavery and immigration in this country we have experienced the outgrowth of acceptance of inequality, segregation, and justice malfeasance. Like any issue the resolution comes from knowing the problem and educating a mindset that over time will resolve the issue. There are certainly the gaps that promote the issues but the gaps need to be closed and the education in our schools at a young age with comprehension of what is right and wrong. There is no harm in individuality but there is harm in entitlement. The individuality in our lives makes for a strong country but entitlement is the wrong form of motivation.

Media feeds upon the racist format. As a white person media portrays a black human being as a victim or criminal. Some of the journalism in media is the greatest form of racists communication by creating stereotypes depicting their optimal view of how to sensationalize the characters. Media has had a part in forming opinions in politics, race relations, religions, gender, education, violence, riots, or all potential influences on citizens who are affected by media productions. Media today can be created and produced off anyones smart phone and scripted with the sensationalism of skewing opinions of the public.

Until our consuming public knows the real truth through history and the challenges for the future we will never change our plight in life. Babies are not born with the sociological or psychological bias but learn them as they grow up.

To make progress with this challenge of society it is time to understand the solution comes from birth through life. Both motherhood and fatherhood have a great deal to do with all aspects of the future. Praise individuality and despise entitlement.

If we can just begin to be part of the skill development of our generations growing up we can change the world. Logic clearly dictates that the needs of the many outweigh the the needs of the few.

As Dr. Laura Jana has presented to us in her newest book “The Toddler Brain” and the skills of”







What if

our newest generation will solve the humanity problems for us.

My final message is to all of us who have experienced this plight over the years should recognize the people we have looked to for answers have been part of the problem.

Let the healing begin with our newest generations.


Most of you reading this article have one thing in common. No matter what age you are, race, religion or economic status we have equality to be a citizen of the United States. If I asked you what is your definition of citizenship what would be your answer? When I started school in 1951, civics was part of the curriculum to give us the perspective of where citizenship accountability would be encouraged in our society. In countries where citizenship is not recognized you become a serf, slave or subject. Citizenship as created by our forefathers represented the accountability for citizens to be responsible for aspects of political, social, and cultural life styles. There intention was not to return to rule they had fled from such as theocracy, kings, autocrats and oligarchy. The United States was a new experiment in government where citizens became a major influence on the jurisdictions on civilization that granted certain freedoms and rights without any undue overly burdensome expectations dictated by a government that would exclude the rights of the citizens. Throughout the past seventy years citizenship has become in jeopardy in America.

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Let’s start this journey of looking at governance and the intentions of our first forefathers as they created the foundation of the new nation and its protections for the people. Even with our diversity of representation with separate ideals and biases it was clear the new nation was not to be anything like any other country had ever seen before. Leadership was focused on the rights of the citizens and a national government role that would have explicit and restricted responsibilities. Planning by these leaders was by accepting the responsibility to protect the security of the nation and working towards domestic tranquility. A goal was always communicated to preserve safety. Founders at this time felt very strongly as they foresaw a very limited government interference with the daily lives of citizens. The founders never felt the need to create bureaucracy of departments of commerce, education, housing and urban development.

Minimal government meant the domestic economy was funded by state and local levels. The forefathers even included the safe guards of interstate commerce so individual states would not interfere with commerce.

55 Men Four Months

Men during this time well understood the possibility of how governments could grow, This is why they started to work on the “Bill of Rights” which gave the Constitution an additional layer of protections. Each of these protections were to have a government endeared to protecting individual rights. The Bill of Rights was a protection where a government could never grow so big to ignore the rights of the individual and economic liberties of American citizens.

The following quotes come from the “Institute for Policy Innovation” which comes from their adapted study of American government.

  1. There are now more Americans employed by government than by the entire manufacturing sector in America.
  2. In the past 25 years the federal government has spent $2.5 trillion on welfare and aid to cities. This enough money to purchase all of the assets of the fortune 500 companies plus all of the farmland in the United States.
  3. In 1987 U.S. farmers received more money in government subsidies than they did in selling their crops in the marketplace. In short, farmers now produce for the government , not for U.S. consumers.
  4. In three states today-California, Maine, and New York – almost half of all middle-income family wages are captured by government through income, payroll, property and sales taxes and other levies.

The question I am sure you may be asking is why aren’t our tax payers rising up against this report card. The answer is the slow but intentional growth of government over the last fifty to one-hundred years has been a slow growth where people are exposed to acceptance because this is the way government is going to be.

A growing country would expect growing finances in the federal budget. But even when considering adjusting for the growth in population and inflation the federal expenditures have mushroomed. Federal budgets have become fixed cost that only grow but do not decrease. Growth and proportional budget should equal.

Middle class Americans have been the class of citizen that has encumbered the cost of federal government. This was not as burdensome until now with a shrinking middle class in America. A federal government that is growing at record highs has caused a backlash to Americans through taxation.

When you recall back to the beginning of the federal government purpose by our forefathers and the position we are currently experiencing has visibly shown us how much we have veered off the track. As the old puppet on Sesame Street “Kermit the Frog” use to say it isn’t easy being green. We can now say it isn’t easy being a citizen. At least by what our forefathers felt our citizens should be.

Many decisions are made without citizen influence. If we just follow the money we can see where the issues are in existence far from citizens to a federal government Wherever agencies at lower levels have made the attempts to represent their constituencies the were ignored for the bigger federal picture.

There needs to be a constituted effort to reduce the size of government. The federal government is spiraling out of control. A nation of bureaucracy, a nation without state authority, a nation dependent on federal agenda’s, federally controlled schools with curriculum and instruction, Is there a flavor of forefathers sill alive for the protection of citizenship? It is obvious as we capitalize on our own special interest for the federal government to rescue us the citizen the forefather definition is being lost.

The Power Has been assumed with no authority.

The United States of America was created with an idea of protecting individual rights and a federal government to ensure national security. Over time the big brother dilemma has produced a money trail of entitlement that has coerced local and state governments into servitude to the federal government. What has been ignored is the actual duty of federal government by assuming authority and dictates to states that were never intended by the originators of the Constitution.

It doesn’t really matter if you are a liberal or conservative. Your opinion should be valued and there is enough space to be heard. The system was carefully construed to include your opinion but through greed, entitlement, prejudice, jealousy, politics vs. statesmen, and the love of humanity being at a low priority we have lost sight of how to work within the boundaries of governance which was made for the people and not politicians. Why would any legislation or bill be looked at with political eyes or bi-partisan when our Constitutions relates to” By the people and for the people?” Ask yourself, what is citizenship and how does it work for you and your family.

Definition: the state of being vested with the rights, privileges, and duties of a citizen.

Is voting importance to get re-elected or for letting citizens vote their ideals?

Don’t let citizenship in America die. Keep it for all people qualifying as a citizen to be represented by people who understands a democracy. Citizenship without civic awareness promotes confusion. When considering your role in the community and how does it compare to the size of the federal government? If we consider the ramifications of a monopoly of a corporation and how the purpose is the protection of free enterprise and the encouragement of competition is clearly a proclaimed philosophy. Ask yourself, “Are your rights being heard at the voting box or are you just voting for a political candidate?

Don’t lose faith in being a citizen. It is our job to become more vigilant to the leadership that we elect and our country’s economics. Have we ever experienced a government from year to year having a balanced budget or even a reduced budget. If this continues consider what taxes will be for our future generations!

How Mentors for People in Need Works

Author: Gary R Carlson, was the originator of the non-profit known as Mentors of Bethany In America. During the past five years the services provided by this organization has seen miracles in life changes for the people who have been part of the MOBIA programs. The mentors have been skillful in filling the lifeskill gaps many of their participants have missed out on in life. The following is a list of programs and what it takes to be a mentor.

Mentors of Bethany In America

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It is a pleasure to invite you into the fellowship of mentors serving people in need of coaching. Throughout the years Mentors of Bethany in America has designed a faith-based approach to support the individuals our mentors are coaching. It is a necessity our programs have the components to recognize the audiences they serve. The ability to allow the Holy Spirit and wisdom from you will provide you with the methods necessary to achieve great achievements with our people in need of support. This manual will give you the necessary sensitivity to use appropriated methods of communications, through visual, tactical, auditory learning styles. MOBIA is continually available and willing to provide support for the best experiences for our mentors and their coachable moments. Each new mentor will be assigned a mentor partner to help orient you to your role as a MOBIA Mentor.


The story of mentorship has a long history of men initially lending a helpful support to people in need. Through a time beginning early in the 21st century a few men began lending support to men in the Douglas County Jail and later the Omaha Open-Door Mission. These small groups had the foresight to see the need for the need to grow these services to other venues in the Omaha, Nebraska community. 2014, there was a concerted effort to now grow the services of mentorship with coaching in other sites and organizations. In the next three years the men of Bethany became now the “Mentors of Bethany in America”, offering planned curriculum and mentor coaches to other people in need which included men, women, and youth. Support systems were enjoined with current organizations and individual services for participants seeking to improve their lives from poverty, incarceration, addiction, absentee fathers’, dysfunctional families, and depression.

More people reported feeling stressed, sad, angry, and worried in 2020 than at any point in Gallup’s global tracking. You might expect that during the worst pandemic in more than a century.

But you can’t blame it on the pandemic alone. While 2020 set a record for negative emotions, the trend started almost 10 years ago.  


Global Managing Partner, Gallup

Experiencing such a high number of people in need of coaching and mentoring it became inevitable to now create an organization to serve the people reaching out and looking for help. MOBIA had experienced a success with people on a smaller scale with their curriculum and practices that made the upscale transition even more possible. May 2018, MOBIA became an approved nonprofit organization with their own by-laws, board of directors, mission statement, and history of success serving and supporting the people in need. During the next years mentors have been deployed to seven sites across the Omaha, Nebraska area. Curriculum has been adopted for both in person and online formats. A complete virtual library has been developed and online courses made available to mentors and their participants. It is MOBIA’s commitment to continually review and revise approaches to improve services for the people that are served. During the years that have transpired with our participants our faith-based programs have experienced what we consider miracles in life restorations.


MOBIA places a great deal of value on the life experiences each mentor has experienced. The organization is proud of all our mentors who have come to us from the professional, blue collar, skilled, labor ranks and parent experiences. It has been evident that the experienced of both success and failure are necessary to better understand what the participants may be experience. During the journey of the MOBIA program existence they now have past participants who are now mentors. The program offers coaching from experienced mentors with curriculum and coaching methods created by professionals. New mentors will have the option to join any of the seven sites to serve people looking for their coaching services. Projections provided the program with the need to continue to recruit additional mentors. When you contact us with questions to become a mentor, please bring a friend. MOBIA needs men, women, and all ages of people to become a life saving mentor. The rewards of becoming a mentor exist in all our hearts. Just take the time to talk to one of the mentors currently experiencing servant leadership.



Approved programs for MOBIA include team leaders who are the program specialist who are the spokesperson for the program outcomes and review. The role requires the leader to provide direction for program curriculum and methodology under compliance with the MOBIA organization. Team Leaders are the key people to keep a count for attendance and case manager for mentors to discuss individual participants to support them in their journey of redemption and revitalization. Team leaders will hold program meetings with their mentors and make suggestions and recommendations to the Program Advisory Committee. Materials both hard copy and online should be utilized from the approved MOBIA library of materials. Team Leaders will provide complete reports to the Program Advisory Committee of program strengths, weaknesses, attendance averages, mentor recommendations and support needs for individual participants.


Active programs will have a mentor designated as the lead person. The lead person will maintain membership to the program advisory committee to coordinate and oversee all activities within the program they are assigned too. Each lead will represent their program. They will attend all program advisory committee meetings. When new programs are implemented, a lead will be assigned to the program. Program lead people will be the main two-way communicator with the organizations where MOBIA is operating.



MOBIA mentors provide the authentic manhood program for men who have been assigned to them by the Douglas County supervision. All materials and copies of resources need to be approved by the county jail authority. Mentors serve on a regular cycle by meeting on Monday evenings at the Douglas County Jail. Some to the inmates may be transferred to the Open-Door Mission for further support and coaching. In those cases, the men are easily entered into the ongoing authentic manhood program at the Open-Door Mission. Meeting times may very but are usually scheduled at the same time each week. All meetings are on Monday evenings. Ages of inmates are from nineteen to sixties. Services are provided for forty to fifty men each week.


MOBIA mentors are part of the assigned curriculum program prescribed by the overall Open Door Mission program for men at the Garland Thompson Center. Mentors meet regularly with men who are in residence at the Open-Door Mission. Theses are residents who are experiencing homelessness, transfer from Douglas County Jail, treatment for addiction or alcoholism, dysfunctional family problems, poverty, and depression. Mentor coaches work with four to five men each week in both large groups and small group sessions. Coaches have a format of coaching methodology, hardcopy curriculum, and online library with access for both mentor and participants. Curriculum is provided from the Men’s 33 Series which provides six volumes with thirty-six sessions. Volumes are designed for men to engage in ongoing conversations with mentors resulting from written material and videos. Resources are provided by the MOBIA virtual library of media. MOBIA program is part of the requirements of the Open-Door Curriculum for graduation. The curriculum covers men and their design, a man and his story, a man and his traps, a man and his work, a man and his marriage and a man and his fatherhood. Meetings are on Monday evenings, 7 PM until 8:30 PM at the Garland Thompson Center. Program mentors serve twenty to thirty men each week.


MOBIA provides support to the program for women at the Lydia House. Our MOBIA women mentors coach the women in residence in the Lydia House. MOBIA mentors meet regularly with the women who are homeless, living in poverty, have experienced absentee fathers, addiction, alcoholism, family dysfunction and domestic abuse. The women mentors provide curriculum drawn from the service of “RightNowMedia” with both hardcopy and online materials. Program times are scheduled on Monday evenings from 7 PM until 8:30 PM. Mentors continue their ongoing services by follow up with participants throughout the week. Women mentors meet in small groups and large. The attendance to their program is fifteen to twenty women each week. Mentors are providing coaching in marriage, employment, motherhood, nutrition, childcare, addiction, alcoholism, domestic abuse, and financial budgeting.


Mentors from MOBIA coach young men ages 14 to 18 enrolled at the Omaha Street School. The Omaha Street School is an alternative high school for both males and females. Attendance is from students who have been excluded from their public schools due to behavior or an incident that expelled them from their neighborhood school. Students at the Omaha Street School are given the opportunity to receive a second chance at redeeming themselves by attending a school with specialized instruction with smaller teacher-student ratios. MOBIA mentor coaches provide a program focused on fatherhood and is called the “Father Hub”. MOBIA mentors provide a written curriculum designated to offer scope and sequence of events in their lives now and in the future. Mentors meet weekly on Fridays which includes lunch with the young men and an hour of instruction. Curriculum is developed to combat inappropriate behaviors, gang membership, and development of goal setting, employment, career exploration, filling fatherhood gaps, and understanding how to make mature appropriate decisions. Mentors take part in the day-to-day school academic success of the students and attend extra-curricula activities. MOBIA partners with the Omaha Street School and the 180 organization for coaching activities.


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Mentor coaches for the Locker Room program provide services to both local neighborhood men who are in search of improving their lives in fatherhood, marriage, career, and faith. Men who have graduated from the Open-Door Mission Program become candidates for more advanced support coaching upon graduation. Mentor coaching provides ongoing support with decision making, career support, and family function positive practices. The Locker Room program meets on Thursday at 7 PM at the Sandler Training Center at 107th and Q street. Programs are a continuation and review of the Authentic Manhood program. Coaching at this level requires a more hands on requirements of follow/up for each week’s successes and challenges. The Open-Door Mission transport graduates in their apartment living program to continue in the mentor support systems.


Mentor coaches provide coaching to recovering alcoholics in residence at the 180 House in Millard, Nebraska. The mentoring takes place by sponsoring these men and in a roundtable session each week onsite. The table discussions are on Wednesday evenings from 7 PM going to 9 PM. MOBIA is in partnership with the Love Church organization by providing mentor coaches and curriculum from the Men’s 33 Series. Mentors work closely with the coordinator of the program at Love Church.


MOBIA has reached out to churches who have been experiencing operation difficulties. Churches receiving these services have received coaching on development, Sunday services, organization, and mission development. Mentors have instituted new programs in Bible Studies, Men and Women small groups. MOBIA Mentors has provided hardcopy and online curriculum support to the churches. MOBIA’s goal is to revive the church to a self-sufficient faith-based organization.

If you have interest in helping your community and those in need please contact MOBIA at: email: gary.carlson@mentorsofbethany.org

God Bless Mentors of Bethany In America

Mentors of Bethany In America

Let me tell you about a story of love, hope, dedication and commitment. Five years ago six men had an idea of improving life for people who had met with discouragement by being homeless, incarcerated, expelled from their neighborhood schools, children who had experienced an absentee father, alcoholism, addiction and abuse. Society has been approaching this phenomenon for as long as I can remember. Our direction to resolve these issues in the past has only created a well known cyclical occurrence of recidivism by not breaking this cycle of life stigmas attached to people in the circle. This situation is compelling enough for communities to logically develop a new roadmap to success. The conditions clearly add variables to the afflicted that are similar and outcomes from these variables are predictable. It is long overdue that the methodology of implementation for those individuals caught up in the cyclical inclusion of a dysfunctional life. From this obvious evidence of unsuccessful outcomes the brain trust of the small group sat out to find a way to break the cycle and establish a foundation which leads to a better life for these afflicted people.

At the grassroots start in 2015, it was the intentional goal to follow a meaningful mission attached to a nonprofit organization. To incorporate a nonprofit required hours of work with people devoted to legal compliance, services by servant leaders, reasonable budget for start/up, create a board of directors, recruit volunteer mentors, programs with identifiable curriculum as related to qualified participants being served, creating partnership with other organizations providing care for our potential participants in our programs and establishing an efficient financial, compliant , service business organization. From these days came patience and commitment by Mentors of Bethany In America the birth of services at the local jail, open door mission and a street school. These beginnings for our board of directors and volunteers had no real conceptualization of how needed an organization like this would be complimentary to other services to attack past recidivism into actual life preserving skills for family, community, faith and health. Changing a negative path of life doesn’t have to be a punitive experience. This story didn’t end upon the current services. Mentors of Bethany In America has continued to expand into new spaces of need. By May of 2021, Mentors of Bethany In America has expanded into six sites and have others to consider. Their outreach has been recognized by local communities, county organizations and state support.

At this point you have read about this miraculous journey of an incredible revolution of taking a path not before traveled. Sounds a little unbelievable but sometimes the greatest answers to healing may not be expensive. Mentors of Bethany In America have developed a replicable process any community or organization can adopt. This journey has created a call for help from others who have used old techniques which haven’t worked. It is their heartfelt search to explore other processes that is not the norm of dealing with people from the past but to accept the idea of helping people reject passivity, accept responsibility, lead courageously and have faith in eternal life.

Mentors of Bethany In America has relied on mentor volunteers who are from all walks of life who have proven they are people who are accepted as trustworthy agents of positive change. Mentors are equipped to provide the natural life skills of simple honest practices by carrying. Mentors are given the tools of material, equipment, facilities, and budget to supply the needs to improve the lives of who they serve. It is a natural belief that people don’t really care about what you know until they know that you care.

Please visit our website at : https://mentorsofbethany.org

What started with six men has grown into a full operational service oriented as an answer to a history of repetitive behaviors that only encourage more of the same. During these years people have experienced their lives growing by becoming productive citizens in their own communities, mended marriages, children reuniting with their parents, beating alcoholism, escaping addictions and complying with the law. As we are mentors, coaches and people who are not quick to judge I am reminded of the book “A Memoir and Manifesto of Revolutionary Love” by Valarie Kaur and her quote “When a critical mass of people practice together, in community and as part of movements for justice, I believe that we can begin to create the world we want, here and now.”

When visiting our website please consider a donation. Our need request has quickly surpassed our financially capabilities. Our proof of outcomes is producing less crime, reduced welfare, and increasing community leaders.

Gary R Carlson

Executive Director for Mentors of Bethany in America.

Our outreach can be both face to face or online technology. By technology we now have members from Indiana, Minnesota, Arizona, Nebraska, and Iowa. We invite people from all walks of life to join us in our journey. Our mentors are engaging in all types of service organizations along with churches with men, women and youth.

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God Bless and We hope to serve you in the future!

How Confusing did our Education System Get?

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Response to “How did Schools get to the Current State of Confusion or Dysfunction” #schools #education #community #inclusion

Response to Jean Norris a leader in education question:

Education has sequenced through history with the challenge of solving a nations of ills. We have come a long way from the reading writing and arithmetic provisions in our schools. The transparent vision is easy to see how this has happened:

(agriculture to industrial, great depression, World War II, Post World War II, Sputnik, Vietnam, Civil Rights, technology, economy, national and world competition, justice, equality) and there are more.

Our forefathers of the Constitution were aware of the importance of education and were careful to outline how that accountability and responsibility would work. Their approach was a honest attempt to keep any influence out of the federal government. Life then was a much simpler world when it came to education. Today our school Superintendents and College Presidents are easily in comparison to CEO’s. Their role has expanded with far more than reading, writing and arithmetic. Communities, businesses, governments (local, state and national) and citizens now all have a stake in the education arena. What is the reason for such interest in education in any country?

1. Literacy = Prosperity

2. Knowledge = Problem Solving

3. Professional = Specialize

4. Career = dedicated skills / business

5. Spirituality = Faith-based growth

6. Civic Responsibility = For the better of the all

7. Law and Order = Protection

8. Human Growth & Development = Health, Mental Exercise, Physical Exercise

9. Personal Growth = Self Satisfaction for reaching a goal

By reviewing all of the potential benefits of education we see the American freedom custom showing its face for all Americans individually. The choices of education have been until recently somewhat governed by families, individuals and business. Anyone could look at the outcomes of schools and match their interest with the schools known success. The forefathers simplicity of education offering would work with this freedom idea but in today’s world this could be questionable. Americans had a choice to attend a state school or college that would be paid for by tax dollars or subsidized by state legislatures. Private schools could still proceeded with a funding base for schools on tuition based support. Federal government didn’t engage into determining the education system derived in each state. The responsibility of the accountability of meeting educational needs was a State responsibility.

My carer has been part of non-profit, profit, k-12, higher education and career education. This experience has provided me with a clear view of what started the confusion. After fifty plus years working in education I have had the pleasure of being an educator and viewing the time-line of education history.

When the federal government felt the need to become more engaged involved with accreditation, funding, rules, laws, outcomes, and the philosophy of what education would be regulated brought to the forefront of politicians. The State system was not perfect but it allowed for better strategic plans for individual communities and schools. The start of confusion began with Presidents Carters institution of the Department of Education. The mission for President Carter with the U.S. Department of Education was:

President Carter

The department’s mission is to encourage educational excellence by ensuring equality for everyone in terms of accessing education. The department also helps to provide proper education for vulnerable members of the public including the homeless and runaway youths within the U.S. The department celebrates its 42nd  birthday this year and it has helped to shape modern America. It doesn’t seem apt to change dramatically any time soon, so we may be celebrating its centenary eventually. 

This reformation was opposed by many within the Republican Party who viewed the department as unconstitutional. The Republicans argued that the Constitution doesn’t mention education and deemed the department unnecessary; with some even saying it should be illegal. However, the department remained operational and gradually grew in stature and influence over the next 30 years, and as of 2016, its annual budget is around $73 Billion.

Even with some opposition the institution was created. As a young educator at the time the philosophy sounded admirable. As time has gone on like anything in the Federal government it was an institution with good intentions that has grown to be a juggernaut for schools, colleges, and states doing what they were prescribed to do.

Over the years we have seen many different types of finger pointing as to why we have not kept up to the derived original path of education in America. To some degree they are all probably right. The education process to be academically free must not be constrained by political appointed oversight. Each educational organization has had to become a constituent to a political scheme for better funding for schools and students. From here you see funding budgets and the division of who and what received the funding. Making funding competitive provides for the opportunity for the big school organizations to discredit the smaller schools and to allow them to increase their promotions. Politics has no place in the education structures of schools or colleges accept for the (The department’s mission is to encourage educational excellence by ensuring equality for everyone in terms of accessing education. The department also helps to provide proper education for vulnerable members of the public including the homeless and runaway youths within the U.S. ) Anyone who is truly interested in wanting to know where the dysfunction and confusion comes from you would need to follow the money. The political motivated funds are big from the federal entities., (research grants that politicians gain insight to information for investments, recognizing accreditation agencies by political motivated and appointed boards, special interest groups lobbying Senators and Representatives, formally instituting student federal loans governed by congress with benefits in interest paid back to federal government, abusing the rights of citizens to choose the school or college of their choice by big brother abuse, and scapegoating institutions to gain votes) are just a few.

Issues that need attention:

Student tuition loans: Pricing out the opportunity for middle class America to attend college unless with a loan you will pay back for the rest of you life.

State Public School Equity: State to state cost per student expense should be based on an appropriate equity. This would take into account cost of living in each community. The equity funds are for support and not the strings attached for regulations.

Reduce segregation in schools: by freedom of choice. Parents and students should not be restricted by a neighborhood.

Measure outcome growth and not standardized test which have high potential of prejudice

Measure achievement by goals and not grades

Recognize all forms of education institutions for public, private, higher education, career schools, jr. colleges with similar outcome achievement goal expectations.

Looking at the right here and now presents some huge challenges. Education in America has not been a result of overnight changes but political motivation has gradually taken a front row seat as to why we are where we are today. Decisions that are politically motivated tend to be unjust, without equity, punitive, special interest, and financially motivated.

This is why when we vote and listen to our leaders there needs to be a consortium of people who understand the need for freedom of choice and schools. Harboring favoritism does not work for all.

Gary R. Carlson

What it Means to Have a Family

Searching for answers in a world of so many pressures that humanity seems to be going in the wrong direction. The United States of America is one of the most educated countries in the world. According to Jerriann Sullivan and Craig Donofrio , updated on July 2, 2020, “Most Educated Countries in the World”. Our approach to satisfying the ills of the world is linear in nature and not a cyclical practice of what we can teach the population of our communities on how to reach some success in a free society. Seemingly, the answer to our grievances is by supporting education in solving homelessness, crime, abuse, and prejudice. Our courts and educational systems have ignored the value of the family unit and how it works. The family has been a constant through the beginning of times. Mothers and fathers have transformed over hundreds of years. Fatherhood and Motherhood bear immense hurdles for the offspring that continue in a cycle of distress or success. In both world and American history, there is enough factual data to substantiate the uselessness of how to make a change. Resorting to violence, punishment, regulation or pacification has not worked. Our solution has been for improvement falls upon new laws, government programs, or the creation of special interest groups that lobby for special dispensations. Our enlightenment has been the path history has taken for hundreds of years. These actions and directions have only enabled wider gaps of incongruent increases in homelessness, crime, and abuse, Retribution for ills of the past focuses on the past. The vision of the future is how to concentrate on the most obvious steps needed to improve our state of life for humanity. The family has always been a conduit to the future of any country or community. Each birth has the significance of a mother or father. What constitutes a good father or mother is taboo for many of our funded educational institutions. The family unit was meant to have philosophical, spiritual, and concrete experiential models and mentors as a necessity of the discovery for both as a value proposition for mothers and fathers’ influences. This article is a reflection of where we have been and how we can begin to focus attention on what makes a positive change.

When we consider family through memories of what it was to have a father or mother will be different for each of us. Experiences of the roles we play in each of these explicit mother or father roles are not biological but are related to behaviors learned. This lineage has characterized itself in the attitudes, personalities, actions, and beliefs of what the parent would be by replicating our learned behaviors from our parents. You will find that through history much of our economy, education, spiritualism, and health practices are a direct result of family. During many of our lives the closest we get to any formal education on how to be a good father, husband, mother, or wife, may only come by our replication of what we have learned from life skills by observing the roles through the experiences by you and your family.

Years of history have revealed the consequences of childhood, adolescents, and young adult relationships with parents have lasting effects by becoming a living linage of their life experiences to become their parents. This trajectory is framed in what we visualize as a cyclical pattern where each child grows up to inherit a similar action role as their parents. Through these cycles, we can see the positives becoming a strength and the negatives becoming a burden in our lifelong journey.

Our existence in this world has bestowed an absolute for every living human being to live an experience of physical, emotional, and spiritual balance to be a father or mother. This similarity may be characterized and defined differently by our society and cultures. Practices of being a father or mother have occurred through the osmosis of learning from a mother or father as each of us has inherited. The embodiment of being a father or mother goes back to the beginning of time. The experience of having a father or mother often differs for each one of us. Our retrospection of the definition of a father or mother has contradictions. Definitions of a mother or father have been learned by you from your cultured experiences throughout your life. While there are many aspects of life regarding life skills to be learned, the actual pedagogy available to society in public education, spiritual education, or higher education is limited to formality or aspects of parenthood’s best practices of love, hope, self-respect, friendships, encouragement, accountability, spiritual sensitivity, health, and parent responsibilities. The dependence on understanding the role of a father or mother filters through the practical experience of males and females from birth to adulthood. Conceptually we become a visible entity of replication of our father or mother. This accounts for both present and absentee parents. This osmosis of learning from birth to adulthood creates a cyclical rebirth of the adoption of parental mores. Recognizing these accepted interpretations will provide a starting point for elaborating on how this circumstance affects our societal outcomes.

The origins of fatherhood and motherhood were earliest recognized in Christianity in the Holy Bible. Indisputably both of these roles in life play a significant contribution with carrying on the next generation of what they have comprehended to be a father or mother.


Fatherhood has varying perceptions in our existing cultures, social-economic groups, and legal institutions. Each of us has certainty as parents our children are given to us for a period of time. The presence or lack of presence in our children’s lives has everlasting effects on their intellectual, physical, emotional, and spiritual life. Fatherhood and motherhood are a partnership to accomplish the best potential in both our sons and daughters. 

Asking the question of how do you become a father? Taking the definition from Wikipedia for father doesn’t give us much to draw upon to understand the wholistic commitment it means to be a father. An elementary view is when a male figure becomes a father by legal responsibility or biological relationship that carries with it certain obligations. Divine intervention posed a very clear delineation of why there is a father and a mother. Separate people with separate God-given roles. Fatherhood or motherhood has never rested only on biological or legal obligations as the final definition of being a parent.

What would be a cursory look at what is the qualifications to count as a father? In 2019, the United States Census Bureau released the first-ever report on men’s fertility. In June 2019 uncovered were 74.1 million men aged 15 and older are fathers. 72.2 million of these men have a biological child. Taking into account the education of these fathers 10 million do not hold a high school diploma and 8 million without a graduate college degree. This accounting of the numbers gives us reason to take into account in this report the narrative on how influencing fatherhood positively could have an effect on societal improvements. The attributes and positive outcomes would build a foundation of what a good father would need to be addressed by our schools and spiritual lessons. Keeping in our strategy with recognizing good fatherhood versus negative fatherhood.

Fatherhood Strengths

Our American society focuses on fatherhood definitions and has relied primarily on biological and legal accountability. The first step may be becoming a father, and the next step would be a dad. Being a dad calls for much more than a birth certificate with a name on it. Dads or stepdads create a lifelong relationships with their children. It seems trite to express a good dad resembles a pillar of strength, support, and discipline. Research and dads who are affectionate, supportive, and involved will contribute to a child’s cognitive, language, and social development. A good dad gives a child a sense of security, higher self-esteem, and authenticity. Dads take it beyond just being the breadwinner, to the accountability of gender development, intellectual development, and psychological development. There is no substitute for a dad’s love. The personality of a dad communicates this love and even with discipline, the child is not blinded by the love of their father. Part of a child’s growing up is the love that is represented by appropriate discipline. Dads don’t tell their children how to live but they allow their children to learn how they live as a parent.

Dads at Home and their Influence

Dads in America are an essential component of the family unit. While the standard view of the dad is a warrior, friend, and lover. Dads who accept these roles have a roadmap to be the person available in the household who has compassion for their family members. Compassion opens the opportunity to teach their children skills from the earliest skills of walking and talking. When their children face challenges, dads provide advice on how to meet the challenges. Dads become the historian in a family who understands the past, present, and future. Imagine a father who has the time to communicate family origins and values. Sons and daughters become familiar with making goals for themselves about their future where their father can support and assist in reaching their children’s goals. Dads will provide opportunities for the improvement of intellectual, physical, spiritual, and health skills. When all these goals, opportunities, skills, and life skills are presented to their children dads never give up on the success of their children. Throughout life, families with a dad understand and relate the rocks on the road to success and understand failures. Optimism for a dad is to continue to believe in the potential of their children. Children were always dependent on the qualities of a dad through the infant, primary, intermediate and adolescent years. Mothers can fulfill their role when fathers are available for their God-given purpose. Fatherhood has the gift of being the greatest accomplishment a dad could achieve. The birth of a child is only the beginning of a journey that requires the presence of a father figure who lays the foundation for the next generation in our lives. This accountability requires a father figure who rejects passivity, leads courageously, accepts responsibility, and teaches how to live life eternally.

Today men lack in some cases the concept of what consists of manhood. On the surface, men are in a state of confusion about masculinity. When men lack clarity about manhood they default to boyish behaviors. Confusion continues to be present when the question arises about when you are considered a man. When we leave it to men with their own definition, they self-defined with boyish behaviors. A father needs four faces of manhood. These faces break down into a king, warrior, friend, and lover. (Series 33 volume session 4) A man and the king stage comes often through their relationships with a father or other men.  It could have been from parents, mentors, heroes, or friendships. This reflects righteous energy through strong convictions, courageous moral choices, servant spirit, and righteous leadership. These steps in life produce integrity for a father figure. The King’s face knows what is right. When you are a father he must lead with integrity. Without the balance of the other faces, integrity can become a bully or overbearing personality. The next face would be the Warrior’s face. This is the man’s face which reflects courageous energy. A father shows their expectations through initiative, protection, provision, and perseverance. The warrior’s face is associated with sports heroes, and leaders, because of their self-discipline and fight for the noble and right things. Fathers often are the present person to interpret these behaviors. Children with an absent father often are left out of understanding this face characteristic. These fathers lack taking on the responsibility of what is right. Authentic manhood to be a father (dad) needs both of these. The final faces of a man’s life are their heart. Without the second two faces is dangerous for life and family. Men cannot be one-sided people. Tragically the two faces of a friend and lover can be unnatural to a man. The lack of being capable to navigate as a friend or lover is the inadequacy to be a complete father. Too many fathers only are attached to their heads and hands. They have kept their heart in the absence to be a complete father. At times without the friend and lover face, a father can become too critical, harsh, and demanding of his wife and children. The chance of intimacy is choked out by your need for control. Friend face calls for men to have relationships with other men. Men need other men when we may need to hear the hard things. Growing up often our relationships were arranged through organized activity. When a man grows up they now struggle to create a relationship with other men unless organized. Friendships for fathers are esseofficeArt objectntial to growing up with your family. It is important to make time to build these relationships. Ask yourself “would you want to be a friend with yourself?”

Fathers are necessary to be a complete family. There is enough research to show the positive effects of why a father has very specific blended contributions with a mother to make a family experience complete.                                

The institution of fatherhood has some essential mores providing the structure for providing potential success to our family units. It has been proven through outcomes the effects of the family not being complete with the father and mother.

Absentee father syndrome has had extremely negative effects on American society. Recognizing this phenomenon now as a practicing educational professional has only seen the rise of negative societal outcomes and spiraling down effects of failure by our community’s lack of addressing these issues.  I first began my experience by working with youth at a facility of incarceration for young men aged fourteen to eighteen. These were formidable years for me to watch children and youth with minor offenses translate into adulthood as acting or potential criminals. The question is how long it takes to understand and recognize the symptoms and outcomes of not dealing with the primary issue translating into a major epidemic in America. Our system has consistently dealt with this issue with incarceration which has increased jail cells, inmates in prison, poverty, crime, addictions, alcoholism, welfare, depression, violence, abuse, unemployment, and family unity. Our historical perspective is that we have expended large amounts of money on the problems without any major cure to the systems. Addressing many of the issues examined has resulted in punishment. To turn around this epidemic we must exchange punishment for self-improvement.

Facts from “Life is Beautiful”, Ministries of Faith

  1. 85% of youth who are currently in prison grew up in a fatherless home. (Texas Department of Corrections)
  2. Seven out of every ten youth that is housed in state-operated correctional facility detention and residential treatment, come from a fatherless home. (U.S. Department of Justice)
  3. Children without a father are four times more likely to live in poverty than children with a father. (National Public Radio)
  4. Children from a fatherless home are twice as likely to drop out of school before graduating. (National Public Radio)
  5. 24.7 million children in the United States live in a home where there is no biological father present. (National Public Radio)
  6. Girls who live in a fatherless home have a 100% higher risk of suffering from obesity than girls who have a father present. Teen girls from fatherless homes are also 4 times more likely to become mothers before the age of 20. (National Public Radio)
  7. 57% of the fatherless homes in the United States involved African American/Black households. Hispanic households have a 31% fatherless rate, while Caucasian/White households have a 20% fatherless rate. (National Public Rate)
  8. In 2011, 44% of the children in homes headed by single mothers were living in poverty. Just 12% of families living with a married -couple family were in poverty. (U.S. Census Bureau)
  9. Children who live in a single-parent home are more than 2 times more like to commit suicide. (The Lancet)
  10. 72% of Americans believe that a fatherless home is the most significant social problem and family problem that is facing their country. (National Center for Fathering)
  11. Only 68% of children will spend their entire childhood with an intact family. (U.S. Census Bureau)
  12. 75% of rapists are motivated by displaced anger that is associated with feelings of abandonment that involves their father. (U.S. Department of Justice)
  13. Living in a fatherless home is a contributing factor to substance abuse, with children from such homes accounting for 75% of adolescent patients being treated in substance abuse centers. (U.S. Department of Justice)
  14. 85% of all children who exhibit some type of behavioral disorder come from a fatherless home. (U.S. Department of Justice)
  15. 90% of the youth in the United States who decide to run away from home, or become homeless for any reason, originally come from a fatherless home. (U.S. Department of Justice)
  16. 63% of youth suicides involve a child who was living in a fatherless home when they made their final decision. (U.S. Department of Justice)
  17. Children living in a single-parent or stepfamily home report less schoolwork monitoring, less social supervision, and lower educational expectations than children who come from two-parent homes. (American Sociological Review)
  18. Within the African American/Black community, about 2.5 million fathers live with their children, while 1.7 million fathers are not living with them. (Huffington Post)
  19. Even when poverty levels are equal, children who come from a two-parent home outperform children who come from a one-parent home. (U.S. Department of Health and Human Services)
  20. In a 2014 study, only 3% of single mothers fell into the strongest demographic groups, while 44% fell into the weakest demographic groups. (Brookings)
  21. About 40% of children in the United States are born to mothers who are not married. Over 60% of these children were born to mothers who were under the age of 30.
  22. 25% of children who are the age of 18 are currently being raised without the presence of a father. Around 50% of single mothers have never married. 29% are divorced. Only 1 in 5 are either separated or widowed. (Life is Beautiful Ministries of Faith)
  23. In single-mother households, 50% involve just one child. 30% of single-mother households have two children. (U.S. Census Bureau)
  24. 27% of single mothers were jobless for the entire year while taking care of their children. Only 22% of those who were out of work were receiving unemployment benefits at the time. (U.S. Census Bureau)
  25. The median income for a household with a single mother is $35,440. The median income for a home with a married couple raising their children is $85,300 in the United States) Two-thirds of low-income working families with children are in the African American community. (U.S.Census Bureau)
  26. Over 30% of fatherless homes are classified as being food insecure, yet only 13% of homes will utilize the services of a food pantry. Over 30% of fatherless homes also spend more than half of their income on housing costs, which classifieds the household as experiencing a severe housing burden. (U.S. Department of Agriculture)
  27. In the United States, Mississippi has the highest number of fatherless homes, with 36% of households falling into the category. Louisiana comes in second at 34% while Alabama is third at 31%. (U.S. Census Bureau)
  28. Children who live in a fatherless home are 79% more likely to deal drugs or carry firearms for offensive purposes compared to children who live with their fathers. (Allen and Lo)
  29. 92% of the parents who are currently in prison in the United States are fathers. (Glaze and Maruschak)
  30. Pregnant women who do not have the support of their father experience pregnancy loss at a 48% rate. When the father is present, the prevalence of pregnancy loss falls to 22%. (Shah, Gee, and Theall)
  31. 43% of fathers do not see their role as something that is important to their personal identity. 54% of fathers in the U.S. say that parenting isn’t enjoyed all of the time (Pew Research)
  32. Even in homes with fathers, the modern dad spends only 8 hours a week on childcare, which is 6 hours less than the modern mom. On the other hand, 43% of the modern dad’s time is spent with paid work, compared to 25% of the time for the modern mom. (Pew Research)
  33. Only 5% of households in the United States say that the ideal situation is to have the mother work and the father stay at home to take care of the children. (Pew Research)
  34. 53% of Americans say that mothers do a better job at parenting than fathers. Only 1% of Americans say that fathers are able to do a better job of parenting than mothers. (Pew Research)
  35. 70% of adults say it is equally important for a newborn to spend time bonding with their father and their mother. (Pew Research)

These are the facts as reported in the research done. Even though some of these numbers may be inflated where marital status may reflect absentee fathers the fathers may be very involved with their children. Even with this caveat, it is evident we have a high mountain to climb. Our current solution is obviously not working. The clarity of the research gives light to where we need to address our future attention.

Looking into the mirror we can all see the reflection of where the answer to our issues is derived from past lineage or experiences. As a young boy it was an ordinary phrase on the playground when one of your friends showed they may have liked someone of the opposite sex they would hear “first comes love, then comes marriage, then comes the baby carriage.” This was used more as taunting someone in the 1950s and ’60s. When we fast track from those days to now we see the innocence of such a time has disappeared. It was a simple phrase but the sequence of love marriage and parenthood has been proven by research that is not the norm today. Forty percent of the children in the U.S. are born to unmarried mothers. Forty-three percent of children under the age of eighteen are living without fathers according to the U.S. Census. The expectation of a dad staying in the picture has become not the norm. When a dad is more likely to become part of a family unit when there is a marriage. Where there are cohabitating parents chances are increased three times, more likely to have a departing dad. These children may never even know their dad. From the National Fatherhood Initiative, forty percent of children who do not live with their father have not seen him in the last twelve months. Twenty-six percent of these fathers live in another state. The outcomes of an absent father produce volumes of resources on a simple Google search that clarifies the negative effects. There have been articles written and talk show hosts communicating with their followers about the devastating effects of absentee fathers in the home as being an epidemic. Our society has done a great job of monitoring and describing the outcomes of absentee fathers but very little has changed these outcomes by not addressing the systematic changes that would be necessary. Those that have experienced this phenomenon in most situations have ended up in punishment rather than self-improvement learning activities. While discovering most of us have learned how to be a parent by our own parents and those we associate with during our younger years of life. Absentee fathers in the U.S. has grown in actual numbers over the past fifty years. While pursuing the cause and effect of absentee fathers’ syndrome we see very clearly the cycle of a clear repetitive practice. What gets practiced gets done. This practice could be positive or negative. Measuring the ills of life often can be traced back to the family unit and the origins of how a child was raised. The cycle cannot be broken until children and our society understands being a deadbeat dad or a single mom is not the norm in our lives. There is enough evidence to prove the majority of those experiencing a life of crime, imprisonment, poverty, shorter life spans, drug addiction, alcoholism, depression, homelessness, school dropouts, poor health habits, lack of goal setting, unemployment, no transportation, lack of credit, no life skills, and most of all no spiritual connection or beliefs is the makeup of these dysfunctional families. Throughout my professional life, I have worked with people who exemplify high potential while facing all of these ills of their life. Our society separates our population into those of us who may not experience or understand how inflicted people are not oriented with a remedy of self-improvement but are withstanding punishment and segregation through limiting their resources for the ability to reduce the ever-present societal issues of absentee fathers creates in the U.S. Men of Bethany in America is a nonprofit organization that has dedicated itself to support and guide adult men and young men how to be better fathers, sons, husbands and becoming an authentic man. By having a lifelong experience of observing the epidemic of absentee fathers who have a high likelihood of becoming dead-beat fathers our organizational members have first-hand solutions to these ills of our society.


The institution of fatherhood, marriage, children, and what constitutes the expectations of being a man have resulted in ongoing changes by the strengths and weaknesses of a society that was intimidated to actually embrace the positive effects of a present father in the lives of their children. Society has endured the effects of an absentee father but what would be the results of a society that embraces the need for self-improvement of the category of being a father.

As citizens, we experience categories of learning by culture, experience, and justice. The next steps are to consider the past, present, and potential future with the importance of parenthood.

First, it is important to concentrate on the fatherhood role. How have our past and present been a cause of the dysfunction of today’s world? Research and data have been an icon of light that paves the road to what has been lacking and what needs to happen. We will first start with our justice system for changes of self-improvement and not punishment.

Justice System Changes

It is well known a father has many duties and roles to play with his family and children. Our justice system has ignored the roles of a father and has focused on one specific duty. This duty is the role of being a breadwinner.

  • Alimony
  • Child Support
  • Parent Visitation
  • Custody

While we consider these resolutions to a dissolution of a marriage doesn’t correct the familial rights of children to have a father and mother experience constituting love, hope, accountability, leadership, spiritual and life success.

In contrast, our schools treat families with what it means to have a baby and how to nurture an infant with safety and health. Family roles of father and mother is a lifetime venture. Stages of parent influence exist continually with the relationships with sons or daughters.

Government Subsidy Support Programs.

As families are cast into categories of poor, homeless, and unemployed have been clients cast into a vast hard-to-define system of bureaucracy governed by the federal government has the purse strings of an investment that has a poor ROI. If taxpayers were to be considered entrepreneurs, they have a business that is bankrupt. Our system’s mission is not returning families to freedom but incarcerating to the dependence of acceptance of being poor or unemployed. Children who are born into welfare and poverty usually stay in welfare and poverty. Today, more people than ever before depend on the federal government for housing, food, and income. The true cost of welfare or aid to the poor is largely unknown because the spending is fragmented into programs. Current welfare is focused largely on increasing benefits and enrollments and redistributing income. Self-defeating behaviors that increase the need for assistance are rarely even mentioned. Policymakers should replace welfare’s current focus with a new set of interlinked goals: reducing self-defeating and self-limiting behaviors, increasing self-support, and improving true human well-being. Welfare reform should (1) require all able-bodied adult recipients to work or prepare for work as a condition of receiving aid, (2) remove the substantial penalties against marriage within the welfare system, and (3) fund programs aimed at improving behavior on a payment-for- outcome basis rather than today’s fee-for-service basis. (Understanding the Hidden $1.1 Trillion Welfare System and How to Reform It April 5, 2018 Over an hour read
Authors: Robert Rector and Vijay Menon) The federal budget for Welfare is difficult to review because of the number of line items it consumes. Social Security and Medicare have single budget codes to review. Federal welfare spending is spread across 14 government departments and agencies, nine major budget functions, and 89 separate programs. As we traverse through the catacombs of verbiage and departments of our welfare system presents a glaring fact that it does not work.  It’s time to try policies that will actually strengthen families and create good jobs, better educational opportunities, and safer communities. It has been reported that the U.S. government spends over 10 trillion dollars on welfare each year. The title or name of this service is a misnomer when it should be the journey to no returns. Social workers, psychologists, probation officers, and regulatory systems are overwhelmed with duties and tasks that do not change lives but only report back into a system about redundant senseless rules for reporting. Caseloads are unrealistic so actual mentorship for changing behaviors is not realistic. So, what does the money go for? Normally, in any business, we would say look at the business plan and budget. Good luck with finding one budget or program cost that clarifies where the money is going.

Corvid 19

Corvid 19 opened our eyes to what was being taken for granted.   Educators in K-12 schools become the go-to institution to solve the issues of the low-income communities they work. It wasn’t long after quarantine became a must in our families and work it was discovered many of these students received their best meals each day at school. Schools began drive-by programs at the schools to help these young people eat appropriate food while they were in quarantine. Food drives were coordinated by schools for food donations. Online education was an alternative for young people in K-12 schools but in low-income homes there was no WIFI, internet, or computers. Welfare is not a way out but is a trap within a cycle of family members growing up and repeating the same behaviors over and over.

Gary R. Carlson Ed.D. Executive Director MOBIAÒ

“Mentors of Bethany Inspiring All”

Reflections and Predictions

A Story of My Pride and Prejudice for our Sector!

My good friend Jean Norris asked some of us to respond to a question of what schools need to do to continue in the future. If any of us had a magic wand we could just point to your school and make it happen. I am well aware it is not easy to be a leader in school operations. There are so many facets that provide a well-run school. The importance of an education and how we provide it changes lives forever. It is truly a people business from early age in life through adulthood. As good as we are with dotting the I’s and crossing the t’s we must never forget that all ages don’t care what you know until they know that you care! I have had the fortune to work with and visit hundreds of schools and colleges. The one outstanding characteristic of great schools were their passion of providing great outcomes with an immense amount of caring.

During my fifty-three years in schools I have watched for thirty years the career schools with history dating back to the beginning of the 20th century. I came from a nonprofit sector that viewed career schools with a weary eye. But low and behold in 1990 my dear God lead me to the doorsteps of a small business college in Lincoln, Nebraska. I had no idea of what I was about to experience as their College Director with leadership that expected from me of intentions of running a college with love, caring, ethics, quality and equality. It was so easy to be full of pride to be part of a school that had been serving students since the 1800’s. To my surprise there were some who didn’t appreciate small career schools who were not citizens or members of the community they served. As the days and years progressed the outside persecution of career schools continued. Political status climber resorted to compliance political dogmas which were focused on destruction. These political regulations I surmised with optimism would be steps of authenticating schools and colleges would be implemented equally. But there was no intention of being regulations being equally prescribed. A nation that grew with expectations of competition and outcomes now was punishing those that were focused on student success, student retention, employment and many who were less fortunate to be able to attend a large college or university.

Thirty years later career schools are still scrambling to survive the onslaught of thirty years of continued generalized allegations and special interest. These politicians became the squeaky wheel portraying themselves as the savior. These enemies of the career school’s lead the way to have successfully put our beloved U.S. into a state of a lack of skilled workers in HVAC, Plumbing, Electricians, carpentry and technology entry level workers. Needless to say, it has been frustrating to see great teachers and students who have made the decision to change their lives for the better have been limited to their choices by sensationalism with skewing the facts with inconsistent facts.

First, I would like to applaud those that have survived the onslaught of hatred and rhetoric of unkind words. It is an honor to be in the same arena with such dedicated people. I empathize with those that could not hold on to the successes they provided to communities and students. The American citizens are not duped forever. A free society with capitalism strength, understands the formula of supply and demand. Career schools were an outgrowth of business understanding there was a need for schools who could prepare students for entry level jobs with skills that could be built upon in the future. Businesses themselves not only encouraged career schools they started them. When this country has a need, and no one steps up to fulfil the need someone will!  Career schools have a proud history that emulates the American way. Like anything in history, you can find the good, the bad, and ugly but history will show on the good side the contribution of business and career schools created the recipe that engaged veterans after world wars and opened doors to those who had not even considered post-secondary schools. 

When entering the career school sector after twenty years of public schools, it was impressive to see how often and quickly the career school leadership would make changes to improve student outcomes and employer service when the conditions commanded it. Career school’s future must be supported and endorsed for the improvement of the education freedom of our communities. Career schools continue to stay on course. They have not swayed from their purpose or mission. The only adjustments in the services to students has been the understanding of learning theory, which gives ground to delivery methods using new technology and understanding the changes in the diversity of learning styles confronting each teacher and student. Career schools have always celebrated their ability to be student centered over teacher centered. Changes in approach are needed to serve the student customer generation they belong too. Each school should make all aspects of their school user friendly with students, employers, teachers, and community.

There are many aspects that need attention in the near future for Career schools. To bring down the curtains each school owes it to their community to share their story and the value added their institution provides. This means we need to share the excellence from admissions, financial aid, education and career services with the linkages of what the value added provides. The school of the past cannot look the same in the future. Those who adapt to their customers will find support and success from their community.


School Alternatives in a Crisis


Schools in America have seen crisis and surprises throughout history. This crisis seems to be much different in that it has direct affects on all aspects of our life. In any direction we look we are in someway touched by the outcomes of Covid-19 in our present and future life. Much is being considered due to the crisis with the length of school years and the delivery systems used. In the last week their has been an abrupt interest at all levels of education with remote learning. Remote education is not new we started with  correspondence courses in Europe in the 1800’s. Today we have alternatives but the most attractive now is online. During the past twenty years schools have been given the options of online delivery from different platforms to produce courses online. The early methods were simply email transfers between students and teachers From this method we learned there was a lot more to be accomplished.

Day after day our students at all ages have been sent home with no real calendar day they will return to their school. Leadership in many of the schools have turned to online education to continue the road map to grade level succession. It is no secret we have been operating across the country and locally with delivery and methods which have not changed over many years of graduations. During the last few weeks an expectation and duty was to quickly reboot our systems to a remote online delivery methodology.   Schools quickly began looking at the online advantage to continue education for students. The educational systems would now need to evaluate the strengths and weaknesses for their teachers and students. After talking with elementary teachers, secondary teachers and higher education communicated separate issues and strengths. Online delivery has been an alternative to learning for higher education for those who needed the flexibility to attain skills for graduation with flexibility. Now, this flexibility for the masses has nothing to do with the decision to move to remote learning achievements. While considering at home education provided by  public or private elementary or secondary schools will require more day to day parent or guardian involvement. Higher education will have to consider education of all facets of the learning process with how hands on requirements, theoretical and group work can be accomplished. Using current materials from campus base to online may not transition well. Just by looking at the stages of education that could be accomplished at home includes pre-school, primary school, intermediate school, middle school, high school, trade school, junior college, college, and graduate college. This by no means is a small task.

Curriculum, materials and methodology are all components equally important to our students to achieve in a remote setting. This challenge will not be met in a short time. This should not come to no surprise to us who have revered the need for great education for our students at all ages. Moving education requirements and attendance to offsite may meet the action of being present but may not meet the auspices of opportunities and achievement required by a U.S. Department of Education or an accreditation organization. This presents the opportunity to strengthen what is needed, capture 21st century possibilities, and diminish what does not fit.  After many years of observing, managing and teaching online we can’t expect how we did things in the campus classroom will work seamlessly over to online education.

It was not predictive to see how our education model would be abruptly changed due too accessibility. There is so much we will learn in the year 2020 about how to deliver learning opportunities to our citizens in the future.

My advice to all schools and colleges is to be cognizant of what a remote learning system is capable of providing. Be sure you don’t give up anything that existed in the campus face to face method. Today’s technology allows for small groups, large groups, individual participation, simulations, projects, chat lines, group chats, recording, video, PowerPoint, surveying, polling, reading software, syncing with social media, sharing, research, question and answer sessions, analytics and schedules for teacher led theory and practical labs.

Leadership in our schools and states need to review and take steps to formulate partnerships to produce outcomes that will encourage and sustain success like the past and set the goal to improve it. This reality of implementing remote actions will cross all lines from schools to business, to government and our day to day lives. Our adaption course in life will change us forever. Life will not return to what we saw as normal. There will be a new normal. Our future generations will inherit how well we do with this challenge. Americans have been in front of nation crisis before. Experts are on the job in all arenas of life. Education is and has always been an important ingredient of our free world.

I pray for all of you during this time of crisis. It is not business as usual but has become very personal. Your leadership makes a difference. We will win this war!


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